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Being a Bator in Couple: Our Advice to Come Out to Your Partner

Being a Bator in Couple: Our Advice to Come Out to Your Partner

Wednesday, September 25, 2024

Coming out as a bator to yourself is an awesome experience, bro. It’s like you’ve leveled up in comfort with your sexuality and your body. You’ve mastered the art of making love to yourself on a whole new level, and you might’ve even found an amazing community of bros who get it. But when you’re in a relationship, it can be tricky to find the right balance and figure out how to come out to your partner as a bator.

Coming out as a bator to yourself is an awesome experience, bro. It’s like you’ve leveled up in comfort with your sexuality and your body. You’ve mastered the art of making love to yourself on a whole new level, and you might’ve even found an amazing community of bros who get it. But when you’re in a relationship, it can be tricky to find the right balance and figure out how to come out to your partner as a bator.

Go Past the Fear of Rejection


If you’re lucky enough to have a partner, this is probably something you’ll face at some point. And let’s be real—it’s a moment most of us dread. “What if they leave me? What if they don’t get it? What if they don’t want me to do it? What if they think I’m weird?”

So many “What ifs?” that keep us hiding this passion and lifestyle out of fear of losing the person we love. It starts as a small secret, but then you find yourself years later, deep in the community, deep in your bator journey, and it just gets harder and harder to hide. You’re timing your sessions for when your partner’s out of the house, pulling your pants down and firing up those apps to work on your penis with your bros on cam. No judgment here, bro. We get it—most of us have been there. And we know how heavy it feels to hide such a significant part of who you are.

So how do you break out of this cycle ? If you feel like it’s the right time to come out as a bator to your partner, stick around for the rest.


Start by Asking About Their Masturbation Journey


You could casually kick off the convo by asking if they masturbate when you’re not around and how often, if you don’t already know. Showing interest in your partner’s experience can be a solid way to bring up the topic. It’ll make them feel included and cared for when you eventually reveal your own “interest” in masturbation. And yeah, it might surprise you, but a lot of couples don’t talk about this stuff honestly—maybe it’s just shyness.

Once they’ve shared their story, they’ll probably ask you about yours and why you’re bringing up the topic.


This is Your Moment, Bro!


Now’s the time to explain just how much you love to masturbate, how you love working on your penis, and how you see it as a moment to focus on yourself. Make sure you make it clear that this is about you and no one else. Your partner could easily take it as a rejection, like you’re focusing on masturbation because you’ve lost interest in them or you’re not sexually satisfied anymore.

Keep things calm and remind them that you’re opening up because you love them and you want to share this personal sexual journey with them.


Explain What You Love About It


Lay it out for your partner. Tell them why this is important to you and what you’re hoping to get out of sharing this. Most times it’ll be about literally not hiding to masturbate anymore, or not hiding the accessories you use to spice up your bate…your grease, your rings, stretchers…it could be anything. Tell them how it works and open up about how bating your dong makes you feel.  It’s all about building trust and getting closer, not pushing them away.


Introduce the concept of the Bator Community


Yes, that’s a big one! For many, the idea of a partner engaging in any sort of sexual exchange or activity with others is a tough pill to swallow. So, here’s how you could bring it up: While bating, you discovered that there are other people out there who love it just as much as you do, and they call themselves “Bators.” It’s all about self-pleasure, but sometimes it involves gathering on camera—or for some, in person—to share this solo activity. And you’re turned on by the idea that there are so many other people who enjoy it just like you. You can talk about it, and it never goes beyond that because everyone’s on the same page. It’s a bro thing where no one is interested in anything more than just masturbating. It’s basically like live porn and we’re all each other’s porn with no needs for physical interaction.


Address Their Concerns


Be ready for questions. Your partner might wonder how this affects your sex life together or if it changes anything between you. Keep the convo open and honest.


Offer Reassurance


Let them know that your bator journey isn’t a replacement for your sexual relationship with them, but an addition, like it has actually always been. It’s something personal that you want to share because it’s important to you.


Involve Them in the Experience (Optional)


If it feels right, talk about ways they can be part of your bator journey, whether that’s through bating sessions, watching each other, introduce them to the ways you enhance masturbation for yourself, or just being cool with it.


Be Patient


Give them time. They might need a minute to process what you’ve shared. Keep the conversation going and be there for whatever thoughts, questions or feelings come up.


Encourage Open Communication


Invite your partner to ask questions and share how they’re feeling. This can help build a deeper connection and understanding between you two and your lifestyle.


And voilà!!


Wrapping it up by reminding you bros that honesty and communication are the keys to a strong relationship. Coming out as a bator might be tough, but it can lead to a deeper, more open connection with your partner. If you’re starting a new relationship right now, our best advice will be to talk about it from the very beginning. Anyone who can’t accept who you truly are is not meant to be with you. And hey, it’s all about getting closer and sharing what matters to you.

Go Past the Fear of Rejection


If you’re lucky enough to have a partner, this is probably something you’ll face at some point. And let’s be real—it’s a moment most of us dread. “What if they leave me? What if they don’t get it? What if they don’t want me to do it? What if they think I’m weird?”

So many “What ifs?” that keep us hiding this passion and lifestyle out of fear of losing the person we love. It starts as a small secret, but then you find yourself years later, deep in the community, deep in your bator journey, and it just gets harder and harder to hide. You’re timing your sessions for when your partner’s out of the house, pulling your pants down and firing up those apps to work on your penis with your bros on cam. No judgment here, bro. We get it—most of us have been there. And we know how heavy it feels to hide such a significant part of who you are.

So how do you break out of this cycle ? If you feel like it’s the right time to come out as a bator to your partner, stick around for the rest.


Start by Asking About Their Masturbation Journey


You could casually kick off the convo by asking if they masturbate when you’re not around and how often, if you don’t already know. Showing interest in your partner’s experience can be a solid way to bring up the topic. It’ll make them feel included and cared for when you eventually reveal your own “interest” in masturbation. And yeah, it might surprise you, but a lot of couples don’t talk about this stuff honestly—maybe it’s just shyness.

Once they’ve shared their story, they’ll probably ask you about yours and why you’re bringing up the topic.


This is Your Moment, Bro!


Now’s the time to explain just how much you love to masturbate, how you love working on your penis, and how you see it as a moment to focus on yourself. Make sure you make it clear that this is about you and no one else. Your partner could easily take it as a rejection, like you’re focusing on masturbation because you’ve lost interest in them or you’re not sexually satisfied anymore.

Keep things calm and remind them that you’re opening up because you love them and you want to share this personal sexual journey with them.


Explain What You Love About It


Lay it out for your partner. Tell them why this is important to you and what you’re hoping to get out of sharing this. Most times it’ll be about literally not hiding to masturbate anymore, or not hiding the accessories you use to spice up your bate…your grease, your rings, stretchers…it could be anything. Tell them how it works and open up about how bating your dong makes you feel.  It’s all about building trust and getting closer, not pushing them away.


Introduce the concept of the Bator Community


Yes, that’s a big one! For many, the idea of a partner engaging in any sort of sexual exchange or activity with others is a tough pill to swallow. So, here’s how you could bring it up: While bating, you discovered that there are other people out there who love it just as much as you do, and they call themselves “Bators.” It’s all about self-pleasure, but sometimes it involves gathering on camera—or for some, in person—to share this solo activity. And you’re turned on by the idea that there are so many other people who enjoy it just like you. You can talk about it, and it never goes beyond that because everyone’s on the same page. It’s a bro thing where no one is interested in anything more than just masturbating. It’s basically like live porn and we’re all each other’s porn with no needs for physical interaction.


Address Their Concerns


Be ready for questions. Your partner might wonder how this affects your sex life together or if it changes anything between you. Keep the convo open and honest.


Offer Reassurance


Let them know that your bator journey isn’t a replacement for your sexual relationship with them, but an addition, like it has actually always been. It’s something personal that you want to share because it’s important to you.


Involve Them in the Experience (Optional)


If it feels right, talk about ways they can be part of your bator journey, whether that’s through bating sessions, watching each other, introduce them to the ways you enhance masturbation for yourself, or just being cool with it.


Be Patient


Give them time. They might need a minute to process what you’ve shared. Keep the conversation going and be there for whatever thoughts, questions or feelings come up.


Encourage Open Communication


Invite your partner to ask questions and share how they’re feeling. This can help build a deeper connection and understanding between you two and your lifestyle.


And voilà!!


Wrapping it up by reminding you bros that honesty and communication are the keys to a strong relationship. Coming out as a bator might be tough, but it can lead to a deeper, more open connection with your partner. If you’re starting a new relationship right now, our best advice will be to talk about it from the very beginning. Anyone who can’t accept who you truly are is not meant to be with you. And hey, it’s all about getting closer and sharing what matters to you.

Go Past the Fear of Rejection


If you’re lucky enough to have a partner, this is probably something you’ll face at some point. And let’s be real—it’s a moment most of us dread. “What if they leave me? What if they don’t get it? What if they don’t want me to do it? What if they think I’m weird?”

So many “What ifs?” that keep us hiding this passion and lifestyle out of fear of losing the person we love. It starts as a small secret, but then you find yourself years later, deep in the community, deep in your bator journey, and it just gets harder and harder to hide. You’re timing your sessions for when your partner’s out of the house, pulling your pants down and firing up those apps to work on your penis with your bros on cam. No judgment here, bro. We get it—most of us have been there. And we know how heavy it feels to hide such a significant part of who you are.

So how do you break out of this cycle ? If you feel like it’s the right time to come out as a bator to your partner, stick around for the rest.


Start by Asking About Their Masturbation Journey


You could casually kick off the convo by asking if they masturbate when you’re not around and how often, if you don’t already know. Showing interest in your partner’s experience can be a solid way to bring up the topic. It’ll make them feel included and cared for when you eventually reveal your own “interest” in masturbation. And yeah, it might surprise you, but a lot of couples don’t talk about this stuff honestly—maybe it’s just shyness.

Once they’ve shared their story, they’ll probably ask you about yours and why you’re bringing up the topic.


This is Your Moment, Bro!


Now’s the time to explain just how much you love to masturbate, how you love working on your penis, and how you see it as a moment to focus on yourself. Make sure you make it clear that this is about you and no one else. Your partner could easily take it as a rejection, like you’re focusing on masturbation because you’ve lost interest in them or you’re not sexually satisfied anymore.

Keep things calm and remind them that you’re opening up because you love them and you want to share this personal sexual journey with them.


Explain What You Love About It


Lay it out for your partner. Tell them why this is important to you and what you’re hoping to get out of sharing this. Most times it’ll be about literally not hiding to masturbate anymore, or not hiding the accessories you use to spice up your bate…your grease, your rings, stretchers…it could be anything. Tell them how it works and open up about how bating your dong makes you feel.  It’s all about building trust and getting closer, not pushing them away.


Introduce the concept of the Bator Community


Yes, that’s a big one! For many, the idea of a partner engaging in any sort of sexual exchange or activity with others is a tough pill to swallow. So, here’s how you could bring it up: While bating, you discovered that there are other people out there who love it just as much as you do, and they call themselves “Bators.” It’s all about self-pleasure, but sometimes it involves gathering on camera—or for some, in person—to share this solo activity. And you’re turned on by the idea that there are so many other people who enjoy it just like you. You can talk about it, and it never goes beyond that because everyone’s on the same page. It’s a bro thing where no one is interested in anything more than just masturbating. It’s basically like live porn and we’re all each other’s porn with no needs for physical interaction.


Address Their Concerns


Be ready for questions. Your partner might wonder how this affects your sex life together or if it changes anything between you. Keep the convo open and honest.


Offer Reassurance


Let them know that your bator journey isn’t a replacement for your sexual relationship with them, but an addition, like it has actually always been. It’s something personal that you want to share because it’s important to you.


Involve Them in the Experience (Optional)


If it feels right, talk about ways they can be part of your bator journey, whether that’s through bating sessions, watching each other, introduce them to the ways you enhance masturbation for yourself, or just being cool with it.


Be Patient


Give them time. They might need a minute to process what you’ve shared. Keep the conversation going and be there for whatever thoughts, questions or feelings come up.


Encourage Open Communication


Invite your partner to ask questions and share how they’re feeling. This can help build a deeper connection and understanding between you two and your lifestyle.


And voilà!!


Wrapping it up by reminding you bros that honesty and communication are the keys to a strong relationship. Coming out as a bator might be tough, but it can lead to a deeper, more open connection with your partner. If you’re starting a new relationship right now, our best advice will be to talk about it from the very beginning. Anyone who can’t accept who you truly are is not meant to be with you. And hey, it’s all about getting closer and sharing what matters to you.

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